Summer Saturday

I know it’s not summer yet, but it is really starting to feel like it. Not just the weather, but just that summer “feeling”!


Working today, working tomorrow, Monday off!

Saturday 9: Sweet Caroline

The idea for this came from Harriet, who suggested the baseball theme.
1) “Sweet Caroline” has been sung during every Boston Red Sox home game since the 1990s. (Click here to watch Neil Diamond lead the fans in the first game after April’s bombing.) Sure, I loved Neil Diamond and was a huge fan of his in my teens?

 

2) Do you have a favorite major league baseball team? Philadelphia Phillies are my team, always and forever, winning or losing!

 

3) Budweiser is the “official beer of major league baseball.” I rarely drink beer, I mean, I rarely drink, but if I were offered a beer, I would not turn it away!

4) Every season, more than a million Vienna Beef Hot Dogs are consumed by baseball fans at Chicago’s Wrigley Field. When you get a hot dog, what do you put on it?  Like beer, I don’t eat hot dogs often, but when I do, I either like chili, cheese and onions (Sonic makes a great Chili dog) or I go for all the condiments; ketchup, mustard, relish, onions!

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5) The odds of a fan in the stands being hit by a baseball are 300,000 to 1. The odds of winning the lottery are (approximately) 1 in 12,000,000. Do you play the lottery? As a group we play the Powerball when the jackpot gets high.

 

6) Though his song has been adopted by faithful Boston Red Sox fans, Neil Diamond was born and raised in New York City. Have you ever visited The Big Apple? Several times, Tara (my teen) and I took a day trip last June. I want to go back soon, on a COOL fall day!

 

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7) Baseball players are notoriously superstitious. For example, the Cubs’ Matt Garza eats Popeye’s fried chicken every day that he pitches. Joltin’ Joe DiMaggio touched second base with his foot every time he ran on or off the field. Do you have any superstitions? Not really! Tara does not like the number 13, but I live with a black cat!
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8) A ball signed by Babe Ruth can fetch tens of thousands of dollars at auction. Have you ever asked a celebrity for his/her autograph? Not any huge celebrities. I did email Joe Bonsall of the Oak Ridge Boys last year and asked if the five members could sign a book my mother has for her when she attended their concert! She got to go to their bus and they all signed it for her! Tara has MANY autographs of her favorite bands. These are not huge bands, but very popular in the genre she listens too

9) Baseball means summer and summer means sun. Are you working on a tan, or do you slather on the sunscreen?  I used to tan. Tanning beds and the real sun. We had a pool when we lived in Florida. Now, not so much. I wear sunscreen on my face every day, and honestly most days I really don’t have that much skin exposed! We sell SOOO much sunscreen during the summer at Walgreens!

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Six Word Saturday – Runaway, Runaway

If I could runaway I would!

 

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(You may want to stop right there, what comes next is the mad ramblings of an exhausted and defeated mother of a 16 year old, my feelings won’t be hurt, I promise. I just need to get this out there!)

I am over this parenting thing. I know that sounds so awful to say, but this unconditional love thing that we as parents are supposed to have is being stretched pretty thin lately.

This sweet little girl, who yes, has always been strong willed and in some ways way beyond her years in maturity, has turned into a real meanie!

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This is Tara a few weeks ago… before she became a blonde. That was not really her choice, just another “bad” thing to have gone down recently, I personally loved her colored hair, but her hair could not take much more processing…. I digress.

You may want to judge her because of her purple hair, or her multiple piercings…lip, nose, multiple ear piercings and microdermals near her collar bones, but all of this is just to stand out and say I’m different, I’m not like every one else.

My daughter is not “bad” in the way that people think of teens being bad. She does not smoke, drink, miss curfew (she is always home) nor is she sexually active. What our problem is is that she HATES school We we are in the midst of the worst drama I have ever experienced being a mother. What I know to be the RIGHT thing for Tara is not what she feels is the right thing or the thing that she wants.

Tara will rationally sit and tell you all of the reasons the school system in this country is doing it all wrong. I have to admit, I have to agree with her on some points. She will rationally tell you all of the pros and cons for her personally. She’s put a lot of thought into this. She will also recite to you the studies that show that TEENAGERS do not perform well early in the morning, even though I would bet that most high schools in the country have start times WAY before the elementary kids. In our district the first bell rings at 7:22. She has to get up at 5:45am. That’s really early, and even I, an early riser, cringe every single morning.

If you don’t know, I am a mother doing this alone. My only real support, my mother, is support for me at times, but mostly only aggravates issues with Tara. The generation gap between the two of them is 73 years… that more of a canyon than a gap, and we all live in the same house.

We all know that there are laws about our children going to school. At some point school attendance (or not attending) is taken out of the parents hands, and put into the hands of the school district and other officials. I have been working with the school, working with doctors to try and see if we can’t get some of the issues resolved, but I am at the point that I really think there is no medical connection to this, just emotional, so much emotion that she makes herself sick when it comes to going to school. We are at the point where the control of any of this will be taken out of my hands, and I have visions of the truancy “cops” showing up at our door!

At 10:45 last evening after I had been snoozing on the couch, I was awakened by the train whistle that is the text notification I have assigned to her. When originally chose it, I just wanted to make sure that there was no doubt that the text was from her, but lately so many times her texts feel like I am being hit by a speeding training.

She was informing me that I HAD to get her out of school, she was never going back. If I could not find a way that she can finish out this school year AT HOME, she was dropping out. Okay, then. 10:45 on a Friday night, I’ll get right on that. It seems she had been sleeping and woke from a dream in the midst of a panic attack over school and grades.

She told me she hated me and used the “F” bomb several times both in texts and to my face. I try my best to not react or at least over react, that just makes things worse. These words really hurt me. I have always tried to do everything I can possibly do to make her happy. Maybe too much so, and now she can’t take NO from anyone.

I’m going to be the first to admit that I have screwed up, but totally out of love. I was not a single mom who left her home with a baby sitter to go out on dates. I even worked from home up until the time she was 13. I rarely went out without her. I bet I can count on one hand the number of times she had an actual sitter. If I did go out when she was little she was with my mother, and it was usually to the gym, a Weight Watchers meeting, or church.  I did too much to make her happy. If she had a bad day, I would buy her a toy, if someone hurt her feelings or she was fighting with a friend, we would go spend the day at Disney. Anything to not have her upset or mad! Now, she seems to not be able to handle NO!

So much of what she is feeling in NORMAL teenage angst, but to Tara, no one has ever been this stressed out over school and grades. To quote a text “I’m pretty sure school is not supposed to make you want to kill  yourself.”  She won’t ever say that to any one but t ME though, and no one else sees the anger and rage she expresses towards me. Nothing physical. It takes me back to the days of her father, we had some really vicious verbal attacks, again, he never hurt me physcially, but verbally, yeah baby!.

We have been having a battle over wanting to do cyber school (we’ve been there before, it worked pretty well). Back in 8th grade it was HER decision to go back to school, and she never really brought the subject back up. Until the Sunday before Spring break was over. I was supposed to make something happen so she would not have to attend her high school any longer. WTF? I agreed it there was a program that would take her almost into the 4th marking period of the year that I was okay with it, but that was a really big IF!

Needless to say, that did not work out. She was mad, but I thought had come to terms with finishing out less than 50 days (we are not at 35 I think) of the school year. The principal and guidance counselors agreed to help her in any way to make sure she passes.

She has continued to miss days of school, we’ve been to two doctors in the past week trying to attack any medical issues from all sides, and I am in almost daily contact with the principal. In fact, he got an email from me at midnight last night! I hope he has an extra cup of coffee on Monday morning!

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I worked today, and dreaded coming home. As tired as I was, I sat in the office for almost an extra 1/2 hour. The people I work with really are close like family and they have my back. They are good sounding boards. All different ages and different types of folks, so I get varied opinions. I appreciate each and every one of them.

I gathered all my courage and came home to I pick Tara up and we went for a ride. She loves to ride in the car, talk and listen to music. We rode and listened to music, and talked, but not about school. It was almost as if last night had not happened.

Should I have addressed the behavior, and the hurtful language? Why yes I should have, but frankly, I don’t have the energy. So far the last five hours have been drama free. We are about to sit and watch TV together, she just asked if we could go somewhere tomorrow to walk…. if only it could always be like this!

I know come Monday morning her plan will be to NOT go to school. I have warned the principal of that already and requested that I meet with him ASAP. I don’t have to be to work until 11am, so I do have some time on my side. She does need to have some blood work drawn, so I might use that opportunity to get that out of the way!

Send some good vibes my way, I just know this next few weeks is going to be a wild and crazy ride!

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Six Word Saturday – Hello!

Hello Blog, I have missed you.

This is a start. Hello Spring!

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So many times I have sat down to right. I probably have 10 drafts over there in my draft folder. Each time something or someone interrupts.

 

I feel too much has passed to try and catch everyone up, not that many people visit me these days! I liked having this a a journal for myself of sorts.

 

The next 10 weeks could be very long. My biggest goal/hurdle right now is to get my daughter through 10th grade with minimal drama/trauma. It’s been rough. She had a plan, but that plan can’t be executed this late in the school year, so she is stuck. Life can be hell when a teenager is not happy.

 

I am still missing Princess who passed away on January 27th. As the spring and warm sunny days arrive, I miss her even more.

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We got a new kitten, his name is Jack. He fills a wee bit of the void. But, he is a cat, not a dog and for me it will never be the same! He makes me laugh, and he is a great addition to our home. Even Kovu is glad he is here after some initial hesitation.

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Life is tense and frustrating a good bit of the time these days, but I have to remember to be grateful for what we have. We are all healthy, we have a home and I am employed. So many around us are suffering loss of a family member or health issues.

 

I would love for you all to remember one particular family, today. They are”local” to me, but I have never met them. Right now they are going through something no family should have to, the sudden loss of their 5 year old son. Kate’s blog CHASING RAINBOWS is an amazing journal of their journey, which this week took a very unexpected turn.

 

Time to run and get ready for work. I’m in the midst of a six day schedule, so I will be working all weekend, at the end though there are FOUR days off!

 

Click on the button at the top and visit Cate at Show My Face and let us all know what you are up to in SIX WORDS!

 

Thanks A Latte for stopping by!

Martha

 

 

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Snowy Saturday

I haven’t joined into Six Word Saturday for a few weeks. No excuse to not post today!     Why don’t you visit Cate at Show My Face, and let us all know what’s up in your world in just six words!

Snowy, slippery, sleety Saturday at home.

 

We have had a very middle winter. Yes we have had some bitter cold days, but they are usually followed by warm, almost balmy days. The only measurable snow we have had was way back in OCTOBER! I love a good “stay at home” snow day, when school is cancelled and hopefully I am not working. However, by this time in January, I am ready for it all to be over! I don’t think this storm is going to amount to much. Right now the ground is covered, but last I heard it was supposed to turn to a “wintery mix”. I’m hoping the teen will be satisfied with a day at home with Mom, watching movies and playing games!

 

Day 58 – I am thankful for my day off!

Princess looking for a squirrel. If I call her name to get her to look at me, she just runs toward me, so I have to say squirrel so she will at least stand still!

 

1. Do you live close to where you grew up? Why?  Yes, only about 1 mile from the home I lived in from the time I was one until I was 27, in fact I drive by the road every day when I go to work. Out of my 53 years, I have lived within a 10 mile radius of that home 42 years. I have moved to Northern VA for 5 years, and Orlando, FL for 6 years. I keep coming back to family.
2. Have you ever been so angry that you almost lost control? Oh my, yes, My late ex-husband was able to push buttons that had never been pushed before or since. I would get so angry I would throw things – not at him – just across the room to vent some of the energy from the anger.
3. Are you a fan of a musical act that slightly embarrasses you? I’m not really embarrassed, but my 14 yo is very much into music, so if she is in the car, her iPhone is plugged in and we listen to her music. I like many of the songs (as long as I don’t listen too closely to some of the lyrics) by bands like Panic at the Disco!, All Time Low,  Sleeping with Sirens (and many more!) I’ve been to more concerts in the past 18 months then in my entire life! Oh, and then there is the opposite side of the spectrum, the band I have seen in concert the most – The Oak Ridge Boys. My 87 year old mother loves them, and I try and make sure she gets to see them as often as possible!
4. Is there a movie that always makes you cry? I cry all the time in movies, so if there is a sad or touching part in ANY movie or TV show, I will cry! The last one that made me cry was The Help.
5. Who is the most famous person that you’ve met? Hmmm, famous person? Mickey Mouse? I can’t really think of any famous person I have personally met.
6. Before you leave your home, what must you have? My iPhone.
7. What do you miss the most about being a kid? I grew up in the 60s, and as much as I love my technology, I miss the days when life was less complicated.

8. Tell us about a passion of yours that your readers would not expect. This one is hard to explain and I probably won’t do a very good job of it. One of the things that makes me the angriest is when people judge others as being “wrong” because of their own beliefs.

 9. At what age do you think you’d be to think, “I’ve had a great run”? Only time will tell. I feel at 53 I have so much more I want to do with life.
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Netflix and Noodles!

Christmas is just 15 days away!


#16 Today I am thankful for a quiet Saturday at home with Tara!

It feels good with Christmas just two weeks away that I am not stressing a bit.

Quite often when I’m off on a Saturday, Tara wants to be on the go, either the two of us, or I am the “Mom Cab” driving her friends around town!

Maybe it was the lunar eclipse, but everything has aligned, and we are both in the mood to chill. We are watching “How I Met Your Mother”, from episode #1 on Netflix. Hopefully later some Christmas movies will be involved!

I’m baking an apple pie, and I cooked the noodles for a pan of lasagna that I will assemble once the cheeses get here! (Mom’s out shopping for them now.)

This evening, we will head out and look at Christmas lights!

Two relaxing days in a row! Life is good!

What are you thankful for today?

Thanks A-LATTE for stopping by!

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Catching up!

I’m back, did you miss me?

There are just times when life takes over and I don’t have the energy to blog. I can’t say I don’t have the time, I did have time, but just not the energy to open the laptop and come up put words on the “page”! If it weren’t for my iPhone, I would not have been in touch at all! Oh, how I love my iPhone!

I’ve been trying to figure out a way to add more substance to this blog, but that requires reading books so I can share a review, preparing a new recipe that I can share, or in general doing something interesting that readers might want to read!

I’ve got none of that! I’ve been battling the cold from hell since last Tuesday (11 days ago), while not missing any shifts at work. Fortunately I did have a full weekend off which helped immensely. That and Delsym cough suppressant that helped me get through the night’s! As of today, I can say the worst is over! I also found that Kleenex Cold Touch tissues are just AWESOME!

Tara has a rough week with school projects that required my assistance. Sometimes i just don’t understand the educational value of projects that are assigned. As a 50-something adult, who spent 30 years in corporate America and now working in retail, I can’t think of any time that knowing what Thomas Hobbes or Adam Smith meant to the Enlightenment period in Europe would have helped me do my job! It wasn’t about the writing experience because it had to be done in video format, with “limited” text. I am sure the educators have some idea of the educational value, but as a parent, I do not. The stress it induced, far outweighed anything she may have learned from the exercise!

I had a  houseful of teens last weekend. Tara had two friends sleep over, and then two other friends (of the boy type) came over to hang out on Saturday! I realized that one of Tara’s school friends is the son of the woman that was my hairstylist for many years… before either of us had kids! Tara thinks that is creepy, that I know his mom. not sure why! I love that my daughter realizes that at 14 it is much better to be FRIENDS with boys then to DATE them. Once you date a boy and break up (which inevitably happens in pretty short time) the friendship is never the same! Tara would much rather have them as long time friends!

I’ve started watching “Walking Dead”. Tara and I watched the first 3 episodes on Monday. When I came home from work that day,  I could do nothing more than lay on the sofa and watch TV!  It is a good show. I just need to make sure I am not eating while watching. Zombies are pretty gross! Good thing there is no smelli-vision!

Christmas is in full swing at Walgreens, including the Christmas music. I told myself I would “boycott” paying attention, and would not start singing to them until after Thanksgiving, but I found myself singing along to one of them the other day!  We also have a A Christmas Story endcap that has a motion activated video.  I am going to buy “official Red Ryder, carbine action, two-hundred shot range model air rifle” and shot it’s eye out before Christmas gets here!

I will be working part of the day on Thanksgiving. Two of us split the 9 hour shift so we could both spend time at home with our families. Walgreens is open 365 days a year! I am okay with that, as I am not quite ready to spend a holiday with certain family members. I think they are trying to “play nice” again, but I am not ready to go there! Too many hurtful things were said, and just sending me a Facebook Friend request, will not make them go away! Working is a great excuse! Mom and Tara will go.

I think that’s about it for now! I’m off today, and think I will head out to the laundromat so I can get this MOUNTAIN of laundry completed more quickly! Thanks A-LATTE for stopping by!

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Snowy Saturday?

Blogging workshop,
Rainy morning,
Snowy night?

That’s my day.

Last time I signed up for a PSMM (Philly Social Media Moms) workshop there was a hurricane headed our way, and today an OCTOBER snowstorm! Should not impact this morning, but might just get me out of taking Tara and friends to a hayride tonight!

(I’m halfway between Philly and Allentown, your guess is as good as mine how much snow we will see!)

Right now I am enjoying Pumpkin Spice coffee with a pumpkin donut, catching up on Private Practice.

What are your plans for the day? Let us know is Six Words and join in Cate’s Six Word Saturday.

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Staycation Day #3

30 Days About Me
Toni is hosting 30 Days about Me.

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Day 12 – Something you are OCD about.

Today’s prompt is the hardest of all for me. I honestly do not know of anything I am OCD about. Well, unless my need for COFFEE is considered OCD?

A quick day trip to Philly.


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It is so nice that is is Saturday and I still have three full days off from work. Even though a job is not overly stressful or demanding, one still needs an occasional break.

Yesterday I crossed another thing off my list from here, I drove into Philly. I changed my destination more than once on the drive. I wound up in Center City. In search of Love Park. I mean, I really didn’t need to search for it, I knew right where it was, I had just never taken the time to park and take a walk!

My first stop was the bank, to request a new debit card. Mine had broken in half a week or so ago, still useable at most places, so I procrastinated, as I did not want to be without one at all while I waited for the new card to arrive. What to my SURPRISE, they game me a new “temporary” card. Now I just have to figure out which recurring payments are linked to the card and not my checking account!

Then I headed across the street to Dunkin Donuts for iced coffee and a bagel.

Iced Coffee in Hand, I headed down the road. Once you see the Amtrak building you know your are almost there. I would not want to be the people working on top of THAT building.

Photo taken through my windshield, while stopped in traffic

Once you see Billy on top of City Hall you know you are in Philly!

I found a parking garage, and hoped that I would find my car when I was done!

I think they painted the concourse to the street and public transportation pretty so you might not notice the SMELL of stale urine. Remind me next time to bring some vanilla or something to sniff. I could not get the smell out of my nose!

I love the energy of the city, but sometimes it is a bit overwhelming. this was the first time that I hit the streets alone.
There are tall buildings, statues and sculptures all around.


Aside from Billy Penn, Liberty Bell and Rocky statue, this is probably one of the most recognizable scultpures in the city, and you know, I never had taken the time to get up close to it!  It is found in Love Park.

One I had that shot (take over the heads of many tourists) I decided it was time to find my way back to my car and head home.

The rest of the day went down hill from there, but all in all not a bad Day #2!

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I ♥ Saturday

I love blogging over morning coffee!

 
Participating in 30 Days About Me is a great way for me to work on integrating daily blogging back into my schedule. Do you need a little help? It’s not to late to join the fun. Just visit Totally Toni.
30 Days About Me

Day 5 – Favorite Quote

I love this one (image from Google Images)

“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.”
— Mother Teresa

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.  Buddha

Virtual Girls Night Out

Ann’s got a Virtual Party going on over at her place. Some great Panic! at the Disco music (I’ve actually seen them in concert) and some cocktails. I’m fashionably late to the party. I have a good excuse I was having a “movie night” with my teen. We watched Stephen King’s Langoliers, it was a very good movie. We didn’t argue once, well not until after the movie when I reminded her that she PINKY promised to clean her room!
More Panic! at the Disco (Brendan Urie of this group is on of Tara’s “crushes”),this song makes me SMILE!



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